Frequently Asked Questions About Being a Big Sister
- What does a Big Sister do?
- Other than the monthly meetings, what kind of time commitment is necessary?
- How is JBS organized/directed?
- What are the JBS confidentiality guidelines, and why are they important?
- Is JBS a religious organization?
- What's involved with the application process for joining JBS?
- I've always wanted to be a parent/adoptive parent/foster parent. Is JBS for me?
- The group sounds wonderful, but I'm a bit nervous about my lack of experience with young people. Will I be able to find support if I have any concerns?
- Are all Big Sisters matched with a Little Sister?
- How do matches take place?
- Am I really qualified to be a Big Sister?
What does a Big Sister do?
Interaction with Little Sisters: Big Sisters have the opportunity to interact with Little Sisters at group activities. If matched one-to-one with a Little Sister, they get together outside of the group events.
Meetings: Big Sisters attend monthly business meetings (on the second Thursday evening of each month) and receive updates from the Committee Chairs and the Director of Social Services. Big Sisters check in with each other and discuss issues concerning the Little Sisters at quarterly support group sessions. In addition, matched Big Sisters must check in monthly via email or phone with the Director of Social Services.
Other than the monthly meetings, what kind of time commitment is necessary?
The amount of time you spend on JBS-related activities is up to you. All Big Sisters are expected to attend as many meetings and recreational activities (recs) as possible during the year.
Getting Involved
- You'll have opportunities to assist with the monthly activities (e.g., buying snacks or cooking, picking up one or more of the Little Sisters and bringing them to recs, setup for events such as the Seder).
- Once you've had some time to get to know the group better, you might be interested in getting involved with our committees such as fundraising and communications. Or you might help out with a special event such as our Reunions or our booth at the Jewish Folk Arts Festival.
Being Matched
- As to the amount of time you spend with your Little Sister if you're matched, you should get together with your Little Sister at least once a month. You might meet for lunch, hang out at the mall, take in a movie or play, or celebrate a birthday or other special event.
- Matched Big Sisters attend quarterly support group sessions where Big Sisters check in with each other and discuss issues concerning the Little Sisters, as well as checking in monthly with the Director of Social Services.
- The main thing is to be a friend and mentor: to listen, care and share time together.
How is JBS organized/directed?
Officers: The Officers of JBS consist of President, First Vice President/Secretary, Second Vice President, Treasurer and Immediate Past President. All Officers except for the Immediate Past President are elected for a two-year term. The Executive Committee consists of the Officers of JBS.
Board of Directors: The Board consists of all Officers, all Standing Committee Chairpersons and may include two active Members-at-Large who are appointed by the President. The President appoints the Standing Committee Chairpersons. These committees include Communications, Financial, Fund-Raising, Insurance, Membership, Recording Secretary, Recreation and Transportation.
What are the JBS confidentiality guidelines, and why are they important?
Confidentiality is paramount to JBS and is constantly stressed to all Big Sister volunteers. As a social service organization, confidentiality with regard to the girls and their families is crucial. The group does not identify itself as such when attending a public recreational activity.
Is JBS a religious organization?
Not really. To be eligible to join, Little and Big Sisters must identify themselves as Jewish. The group's primary focus is on sharing different experiences and Jewish backgrounds. No standards of religious belief are imposed. JBS does not keep kosher. We welcome Little and Big Sisters from all branches of Judaism.
Both Little and Big Sisters often have the chance to enjoy incorporating Jewish rituals, traditions and holidays into our group activities. The annual Chanukah party and Passover Seder are popular events. Other group recreational activities have focused on Purim and Sukkoth.
Although recreational activities are scheduled so as not to interfere with Jewish holidays, some occur on Saturdays.
What's involved with the application process for joining JBS?
Introduction
If you're interested in joining JBS, you'll be invited to an Introduction where you'll learn more about the organization and can complete the application form, sign a consent form for a background check (for security reasons), and submit personal and professional references.
Orientation
Once all the necessary information has been received and approved, you'll be invited to an Orientation session to train and welcome you to Jewish Big Sisters!
I've always wanted to be a parent/adoptive parent/foster parent. Is JBS for me?
While JBS encourages Big Sisters to be friends, mentors and role models for the Little Sisters, we are not an adoption agency or foster placement agency. JBS is intended as a supplement to family life, not a substitute for it. We stress that Big Sisters cannot be a "child saver," probation officer or parent to the Little Sisters — just be a friend.
The group sounds wonderful, but I'm a bit nervous about my lack of experience with young people. Will I be able to find support if I have any concerns?
Absolutely! One of the primary responsibilities of our Director of Social Services is to give support and help with Little Sister-related issues or other concerns you may have. Support group sessions give Big Sisters a chance to check in with each other and discuss issues concerning the Little Sisters. And remember: other Big Sisters are also there for you. You're certainly not alone!
Are all Big Sisters matched with a Little Sister?
No. It is not essential every Big or Little Sister be matched, unless she is interested. Big Sisters are required to have at least six months' active membership with JBS before a match would be considered. This waiting period gives the Big Sister a chance to get acquainted and feel comfortable with the girls and the organization. The monthly activities give all Big Sisters an opportunity to interact with and support all the Little Sisters.
How do matches take place?
Big Sisters and Little Sisters are free to express their interest in matching by talking with the Director of Social Services, who makes all match determinations. The Director will then consider the appropriateness of the match and will separately discuss it with the Little Sister and Big Sister.
Am I really qualified to be a Big Sister?
Our Big Sisters have diverse backgrounds: from moms and single women to business professionals, educators, social workers, communicators and much more. We offer opportunities to capitalize on your interests.
- Love to paint? You can help the girls with arts and crafts projects.
- Like the outdoors?We have activities like swimming, tennis, picnics and trips to the zoo.
- Want to share the Jewish experience? We celebrate many of the holidays.
We're about mentoring, so bring your outside interests to our group. After you've completed the orientation and application process, you'll find out how fulfilling and rewarding being a Big Sister really is!


